Talking to toddlers about body safety isn’t always easy, but one mom on TikTok just showed us how it’s done. In a now-viral video with 5.5 million views, Dallas creator @khani.trendy (aka Mrs Mama) sits down with her daughter, Tootie, for a simple but powerful lesson on good touch vs. bad touch.
@khani.trendy Having important conversations early! Teaching my 3-year-old about personal boundaries, safe touches, and the power of saying ‘no.’ These lessons start at home, and I want Tootie to always feel confident in speaking up and knowing the difference between good and bad touch. Let’s normalize these conversations for our little ones! #bodysafety #toddlersoftiktok #momsoftiktok #parenting ♬ original sound – Laiti 🩷
And the internet is here for it.
Breaking it down for toddlers—without fear
In the video, Mom calmly walks her toddler through different types of touch, reinforcing what’s okay and what’s definitely not. High fives? Good touch. Hugs? Good touch. Mouth? Bad touch. The toddler confidently calls out answers (and adorably hesitates on a few—relatable), while Mom reassures her that she gets to decide what’s comfortable.
Even Grandma doesn’t get a free pass. When Miss Tootie asks if Grandma can kiss her on the mouth, Mom gently reminds her that kisses are for cheeks only. Lesson: bodily autonomy applies to everyone—even family.
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The comments section? A parenting masterclass.
@Some rando lol: “Normalize teaching y’all kids this.”
@6 Figure Digital CEO: “If she is uncomfortable with it, it’s all bad touch… no matter who it is.”
@Shae.amoree: “This type of conversation is SO IMPORTANT❤️.”
One social worker, @De’Khorian A. Brown, even chimed in with an important addition: “THANK YOU! Also, incorporating actual names for body parts is helpful too instead of nicknames like ‘pocketbook,’ etc.”
Meanwhile, others loved how Mom included hair in the conversation: @Niq Niq 💕🫶🏾: “I’m so glad you’re teaching her about the hair as well! 💕 Such a wonderful mother!”
Starting the conversation early is key
This video is going viral for a reason: It’s showing exactly how to have this conversation in a way that feels safe, normal, and empowering for kids. It’s also a reminder that teaching consent starts young—not just for girls, but for boys, too.
Because at the end of the day, body safety isn’t just about avoiding uncomfortable situations—it’s about raising kids who trust their instincts, advocate for themselves, and respect the boundaries of others. These early conversations lay the foundation for lifelong confidence, emotional intelligence, and, most importantly, safety.
As @Poochinalalaʚɞ put it: “Teach boys this.”
And honestly? We couldn’t agree more—because when all kids grow up knowing their bodies are theirs and theirs alone, we take a big step toward a future where respect and consent are the norm, not the exception.
Related: 10 ways to talk to your kids about body safety and consent
