Three days ago, a quiet revolution in how we think about motherhood went wildly viral.
You’ve heard of Type A moms. You might be one. But what happens when we stop striving for control and start embracing the mess?
A TikTok from @katebonin7—now topping 35 million views—shows what life looks like inside a self-proclaimed “Type B mom” household. There are mismatched utensils crammed into drawers, Tupperware cabinets that explode open, and unstacked pans that never quite fit. It’s noisy, imperfect, and utterly joyful.
Instead of curated toy bins and color-coded chore charts, the camera captures something far more meaningful: connection. In one shot, mom effortlessly nails the rhythm of a Skip-It toy while laughing in the background. Her kids aren’t being micromanaged—they’re being loved. She’s not fussing over messes, but soaking up the moment.
Um, hi. It’s me. Type B mom of 5 kids here. Where our cupboard cabinets aren’t even organized chaos—they’re just chaos. Where socks or water bottles have been known to fall out of our minivan. Where we might not have the most organized car, but we are singing along for the ride.
And if Type B moms celebrate that life (and motherhood) is not about perfectionism, then that’s a message more moms need to hear.
It’s just a simple video. But in a culture obsessed with perfection, in a world where moms especially are expected to do more, better, faster, Type B motherhood feels downright radical.
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Why more moms are embracing ‘Type B’ parenting—and why it’s good for kids
“Type B parenting”—a term floating around TikTok and parenting circles—isn’t about being lazy or disengaged. It’s about letting go of unnecessary pressure. It’s about choosing connection over control, memories over meticulousness. And honestly? I became Type B by necessity, not even by choice.
Research backs this up: Children thrive most when they experience what psychologists call “emotional attunement” — feeling seen, heard, and accepted — rather than perfect external conditions. A landmark study published in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry found that parental responsiveness mattered far more to child development than rigid routines or spotless environments.
Translation? The way you feel in your home matters more than how your home looks.
Ditching the “Good Mom” myth
The emotional comments flooding this TikTok reflect a generational pivot happening right now among millennial and Gen Z moms. We’re rejecting the 1950s-era ideal of the stoic, perfectly coiffed mother and embracing something far more real: mothers who are allowed to be human.
More and more parents are questioning the unspoken rule that a “good” home must look Pinterest-ready at all times. They’re redefining “good parenting” as loving, flexible, and emotionally safe — not necessarily color-coded or clutter-free.
And for many women, this new type of parenting comes from a place of pain—and generational healing. As Kate Bray, a Tiktok commenter, put it:
“I’m a type B mom because my mom was type A and it was hell.”
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Why relaxed moms matter
The stakes are high. Studies show that children growing up in emotionally warm, less perfectionistic households are more resilient, more confident, and less anxious later in life. Meanwhile, kids raised under intense pressure to perform—or to never “mess up”—often carry that anxiety into adulthood. And we’re here for anything that means less pressure and more support for moms.
This viral moment reminds us that love doesn’t live in spotless floors or hyper-structured schedules.It lives in giggles echoing down messy hallways. It lives in spontaneous snack picnics on the living room carpet. It lives in moms who exhale, embrace the chaos, and say, “I am doing enough.”