Picture this: You’ve spent nine months growing a tiny human, survived hours of labor (or major abdominal surgery), and powered through sleepless nights—only to stare into your baby’s face and see… your partner staring back. That’s the hilarious grievance mom and content creator Abbie Herbert (@AbbieHerbert) shared in her now-viral TikTok, racking up over 895K views and a flood of “SAME, GIRL” comments.
Abbie joked about her son being her husband’s “carbon copy”—zero resemblance to her, despite her doing all the heavy lifting. It’s the universal mom rant: We put in the work, but Dad gets the genetic credit. And judging by the response? Moms everywhere are laughing (and side-eyeing evolution).
Moms in the comments? Hilarious, honest, and so real
If you thought the video hit hard, just wait until you read the comments. Moms everywhere are screaming—and for good reason. Turns out, this feeling of doing all the work only for your baby to come out looking like Dad? It’s basically a universal truth.
While some moms were just confirming how much the baby looked like their dad,
- Lottie: “They’re identical 😭”
- Amely 😃: “The resemblance is uncanny, it’s like looking at two versions of the same person. The similarities are striking.”
- Erin: “Oh man, Josh really said copy and paste!”
- Laylaj370: “It’s not fair…. I tell you😭😭😭”
Others shared their own stories:
- HELENA KLEYMA: “Girl same. 2 kids, 2 emergency CSEC. At first at least 1 looked like me the other like him, now they’re 9 and 10 and both look like him. One looks like the kid version of him, the other the grownup😫”
- Rachel Blogg: “Me!!!! Twice too. 18 months apart! Nonstop nursing too. Wouldn’t change a thing 💙”
- KJ: “two c section babies here. my son is my husbands mini but thankfully my daughter is my mini”
Why babies really do look more like dad (and it’s kind of evolutionary)
It might feel like a personal betrayal when your baby pops out looking like your partner’s clone—but it turns out, there may be an evolutionary reason for it.
According to a study published in Evolutionary Psychology, mothers are significantly more likely to say that their unborn babies resemble the father—even when there’s barely anything to go on during a 20-week ultrasound. Why? Because reassuring dads of their biological connection may actually increase their emotional and financial investment in the child.
The researchers found that:
- 74% of pregnant women said their fetus looked like the father, while only 26% said the baby looked like them.
- Among unmarried women, a whopping 93% said the baby resembled the dad.
- Fathers, on the other hand, were split—about half thought the baby looked like them, and half said the baby looked like Mom.
And here’s the kicker: this wasn’t about actual resemblance. A study published in Scientific American debunked the myth that babies resemble their fathers more than their mothers. When unrelated people were asked to match baby photos with their parents, they were better at identifying the mother—not the father. So this whole “he looks just like his dad” thing? It’s often a perception shaped by unconscious bias, especially from moms.
It might not seem fair (because it’s not), but it’s an age-old survival strategy: If Dad thinks the baby looks like him, he’s more likely to stick around and help raise them. Smart? Yes. Annoying when you carried the baby for nine months and pushed (or were cut) them out? Also yes.
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But let’s not forget who actually did the work
Sure, babies might come out looking like Dad. But let’s be clear: the real MVP here is Mom.
She’s the one who grew a human from scratch. The one who went through morning sickness, rib kicks, Braxton Hicks, and sleepless nights. She’s the one who lay on an operating table (sometimes more than once), got stitched back up, and still managed to start walking around a few hours later because—well, life doesn’t pause when you’re a mom.
So when people gush about how much the baby looks like their dad, it’s okay to smile politely… and also mutter “cool, but I made him” under your breath.
Because while the resemblance might be Dad’s, the sacrifice, the strength, and the sleepless nights? That’s all you, Mama.
The bottom line
At the end of the day, he may have the face—but you did everything else. You carried the baby, birthed the baby, and now you’re raising the baby. And that deserves way more than just credit—it deserves admiration, support, and maybe a few extra foot rubs, too.
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